Working as an Escort

So you have decided to become an escort? You need the cash to clear your debts, you would like a bit of extra pocket money each week, perhaps it is the thrill and excitement of it all that has drawn you towards the oldest profession in the world. Whatever your reasons it is important that you do not step into escort work blindly. This guide assumes that you understand you will not be paid hundreds of pounds an hour to chat over dinner, the night ending with a polite peck on the cheek. There is, of course, far more to it than that!

In this article we are referring to the world of high class escorting, by which we mean visiting men and sometimes couples at their home or hotel or offering incalls at a private residence. It does not discuss working in a brothel or massage parlour (an altogether different way of working) nor street walking. It assumes that you have a good level of education, you are articulate, are not addicted to drink/drugs and have made this decision of your own free will. You are a business woman intent on using her assets to their best advantage. Age is not a factor here provided you market yourself honestly and accordingly.

The first consideration will be how you would prefer to work. You could work as an independent escort and manage your own advertising and bookings, or you could work for an escort agency. Both have advantages. As an independent escort you have full control over who you visit and you get to keep 100% of the fee. However, you have to manage your own marketing (photographs, website, directories etc) and field a multitude of calls, texts and emails from timewasters and misfits, not to mention regular clients who often like to stay in touch between bookings. No mean feat!

You can avoid all that hassle working for an escort agency, but working for an escort agency requires a high level of trust that the operator has your best interests at heart. Pick a good escort agency are you are laughing - they will be experienced, will field so many calls a day that they can sniff out a timewaster at the drop of hat and have a database of regular clients who are trustworthy and reliable. They will also have checking in and out procedures and will want to keep you on their books as long as possible so will treat you with respect (be sure to give this back). Pick a bad escort agency and you will get none of that!

A reputable escort agency WILL NOT charge you a joining fee or tell you that you can earn money from social escorting. A reputable escort agency will be upfront with you about what the work inolves and will charge you a commission on any work that they get you. This means that they do not get paid until you get paid (a reasonable commisson would be around 30%-40% of the booking fee). Avoid any escort agency that asks for cash up front and those that require clients to login before they can see your details. Some of these agencies advertise 0871, 0844, 0845 etc numbers so when you call to complain that they have stolen your cash they earn money!

If an escort agency signs you up for free and then asks for money to ‘maximise your profile’ this again would be a time to walk away. A reputable escort agency may ask you to pay for a professional escort photoshoot (in which case you would pay the photographer and have ownership of the photos), but would never charge you a fee to add photos to their website.

A common trick used by the dodgy escort agencies is to tell you that they have a job for you....their client is desperate to meet you....but that you need to pay their joining fee first. Don't be tricked - you will never hear from them again. Do your research and don't get conned!

A well advertised escort agency is a good start. A reputable agency will spend thousands of pounds a year on advertising to ensure that their girls get regular work. You will find various links to the escort agency website from all well established UK punting directories often with reviews if the agency is well established.

A good escort agency website will be created with the client in mind rather than the escort. The site will place great emphasis on selling escort services and a little on escort recruitment. Escort photos and details will be publicly accessible without the need for a site login.

Expect to be invited to interview! A good agent will have a regular client base and a reputation to keep up. They will want to see you in the flesh, get an idea about your personality and talk you through what is involved. Be up front with them from the start, do not tell them you are 28 when you are 38 or send them photos that are 10 years old or heavily airbrushed.

DO NOT consider an escort agency if you are going to begrudge paying your commission. Only a fool thinks you can run an escort agency for free - there are considerable costs involved in gaining and maintaining clientele and these have to be covered.

Most escort agencies work on an outcall basis (where you visit private residences or hotel rooms) though some have incall premises. The way you work if you join an agency will largely be dictated by how they operate and you can chose one that suits.

If you have decided to work as an independent escort then you need to give this further consideration. In our opinion, provided you you follow the guidelines in the working safely section, outcalls are safer than incalls for the independent escort. One big disadvantage with incalls (where the client visits you) is the difficulty doing any checks/vetting whatsoever prior to them turning up at your door. You are therefore prone to no shows and the odd nutter crossing your threshold.

When providing outcalls you might want to consider setting a minimum booking time, for example, only visiting clients who are prepared to book you for 2 hours or longer. Think quality over quantity. You don't want be hopping from client to client all night do you? You can work perfectly successfully by seeing no more than one client in an evening if you market yourself correctly and push for longer liaisons. Also don't assume that you need to work through the night - 7pm to 10pm are peak times for bookings to start. Any callers after that time are likely to be not worth your trouble. Furthermore, with the correct marketing, most of your bookings will be made in advance anyway.

You will need to decide what services you are going to offer your clients. At this point you really need to think long and hard about the work. In the world of high class escorting French kissing is a must. If you can't offer this service then you are failing at the first hurdle. Prostitutes, as the old addage says, don't kiss. Well, sole trading business women DO kiss if they want to maintain their client base. A happy customer is a returning customer after all. Provide them with the ultimate girlfriend experience (GFE) and you will have a fan for life. Make them feel repulsive and they won't call again. The most successful girls in the escort industry are not necessarily the prettiest or the youngest...it's actually the girls that can connect emotionally and physically with their client, regardless of his age or looks.

Of course being this good has its pitfalls too. Most clients are sensible in their expectations and appreciate that it is a business transaction. Though they suspend this belief while you are together, when you leave they come back to reality. Others, can get a a little caught up in it all and may decide they have fallen in love with you (and you with them). It happens all the time so if you are good, expect it, but never encourage it! It is up to you how you handle the situation - if they won't listen to reason then walk away.

Back to escort services! It is up to you to set your limits - only offer services you are comfortable with. For example, are you going to offer oral sex with a condom (OW) or without a condom (OWO)? Most guys prefer the latter (but not all) and they always love to return the favour! Just because you offer uncovered oral sex doesn't mean you have to allow the client to come in your mouth. Infact 'come in mouth' or CIM is not something a client should automatically expect you to offer. Obviously pentrative vaginal sex is generally considered a must but don't feel you have to provide anal sex (A Levels) unless you want to. You can work perfectly successfully without providing this service.

This next bit really goes without saying but I am going to mention it anyway. Some of the guys you will see will be old hands in this industry - they will be wealthy and charming and will do their upmost to manipulate you. Sex should always be protected - don't risk your life or health because your client claims he allergic to latex or can't get any sensation with the condom on. Don't give in if they offer more money or tell you other escorts have offered this service. If they are shagging prostitutes without a condom or 'bareback', take them off your Christmas card list and never see them again.

Who you are prepared to visit is another important consideration. Just men or women too? There are defintely a good amount of openminded couples out there who like to book an bi-sexual escort every now and then to spice up their sex lives. If you find the female form attractive then go for it.

Regardless of services you chose to offer and to who, be cheeky, raunchy, passionate and wild in the bedroom. Don't be passive - take charge and guarantee yourself loads of repeat business.

Woe betide the escort who tries to promotes herself online with crappy amateur photos, taken in front of piles of dity washing in her bedroom, or extreme close ups of her fanny or arsehole. For God's sake ladies, market yourselves with some dignity! Yes you're selling sex but it doesn't have to be seedy, think sensual and alluring instead. If you promote yourself badly and you will attract bad men - you reap what you sow.

So with that in mind, good quality professional photos are a must for the high class escort. This is likely to be your biggest outlay initially but visit the right photographer and it will pay dividends. It is important that you don't misrepresent yourself - if you are a size 16 don't ask the photographer to retouch you to a size 10! Being honest with your client means you won't get told to sod off when he opens the hotel room door! See our escort photography section for more details.

Similarly, what you write about yourself online will dictate who calls. Present yourself as an intelligent and classy escort and you will attract like-minded men. Present yourself as the ultimate slut cumbucket jizzmonster and you will attract tosser after tosser.

So how do you let clients know you are out there and available? It's got to be the web all the way, forget the newspaper classifieds. You need to cultivate a good web presence - a nice website and listings on reputable punting directories (such as this one) will see you right. There are a whole host of escort website design companies out there vying for your business. Have a look at existing websites they have created - do they appeal, are they any good, how easily do you find them when searching in Google? Alternatively, you could also have a shot at creating your own. See our escort web design section for more details.

So how much are you worth? Only you can decide that. The sensible thing to do would be to research the competition thoroughly and look at what they are charging. There is place for all women in this industry, regardless of age or shape. However, you have to be realistic about what you charge your clients. If you've got a good look and some professional photos my advice is to charge higher fees, insist on longer dates and see less clients - an altogether more pleasant way of working.

Are you a straight guy who wants to earn some extra money working as a male escort? Getting paid for having sex, great! Sounds too good to be true really......and that's because it is. I have yet to meet a straight guy who works in this industry with any success. The buyers in this industry are men, not women. So many bogus websites advertise for straight male escorts because, let’s face it guys, you must be easy targets. You are NOT going to earning a living pleasuring frustrated housewives.

If you find an escort website advertising heavily for straight male escorts they are bogus and will charge you a fee somewhere along the line with no chance of a return. If you are straight, stubborn and therefore set on persuing things despite the advice above, then probably your best chance would be to work as an independent male escort. Be warned though guys, it is almost certainly going to be a fruitless task.

If you've read this far then you must be interested! Visit our staying safe section for tips on minimising the risks associated with escorting.